What Parents Should Tell Teens About Sex
Posted: Sunday, March 07, 2010
by EMMA WANJIKU
EMMALIFETIPS.com
A recent sexual trends survey in Kenya on teens and young people shows that over half of all teens aged between 15 and 19 actively engage in sex with multiple partners for various reasons. This is not just a crisis limited to certain countries but world over, more and more young kids are engaging in sexual activities way before their time wrecking havoc in their lives. These trends put parents and guardians in focus and many teens actually blame their parents for not providing the right guidance where sex is concerned.
First, regarding timing, parents and guardians are advised to cultivate strong bonds with their kids even before they are born. Showing interest in your kid's life when they are in high school can be too late and for this reason, parents need to start talking with their kids early in life to establish the trust that will pave way to talks about contentious issues such as sex.
Once you have a firm relationship with your kids, they will grow up knowing that you are not just a parent but a trusted person who can provide vital information, wisdom and a shoulder to lean on. Experts say that with strong communication and love between parents and kids, all kinds of problems including questions on sex can be catered to amicably without major conflict. Children will also not feel the need to act out and prove points to their parents. Parents and guardians must model integrity for any success to be achieved.
Parents should inform their kids on what sex is and what it is not. The following are top points about sex that show what it is not. Teens should know that sex is not a way to make people fall in love and it is not also a basis for any form of commitment. They should also be informed that it is not a measure to how much you love somebody.
Engaging in sex is not a sign of how mature a person has become and this is crucial to teens. Sex is not a leisure activity or hobby and it is certainly not a means to get back at somebody. Another point about sex that parents should inform them is that it is not always fun as many would imagine; it takes more to achieve the fun.
With the above lessons on what sex is not, parents should now inform their teens what sex is as stated below. Sex is a physical activity but an emotional and spiritual experience as well that will engage the whole being of a person. Sex is an activity that can get people pregnant, lead to transmission of sexual diseases and the like. However, these are just physical consequences.
Sex can break the heart and leave egos bruised as well. It can also lead to feelings of guilt. Sex is a passage that sees people loose their virginity for the first time. There is no turning back or regaining virginity once lost and it is wise for kids to recognize the milestone of loosing virginity and not take it casually. Sex will not be fun when the timing is not right and for this, it is a sensitive matter that takes commitment and acknowledgement of the consequences.
Another vital point that teens need to know about sex is that it is best done when two people who love each other and care about each are committed. This is the only sure way to have sex work as intended by the creator. Teens need to know that sex is a messy affair that involves the interaction of bodily fluids and many times the production of strange noises.
These and other facts about sex should be openly spoken by parents and guardians to teens so that they can have a picture of what it is. Many kids will engage in sex just to experiment. The above facts need to be told to kids who can fully understand the issues. Otherwise for younger kids who cannot comprehend, the details about sex might not be as necessary.
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